Story Telling

Are you a great storyteller? Do you tell yourself endless stories? Do you allow yourself to believe the stories you tell yourself? I am not good enough. I cannot do that. It never happens for me. I do not have the confidence to do that. What if it went wrong?

Believe me you are not alone.

Many people allow themselves to over think and story-tell situations that may not even happen,before you know it your mind is racing away. Would you like to take back control?

Here are a few tips to help.

  • Write down what is fact and what is fiction. (Be honest with yourself).
  • Question what YOU can do about the situation.
  • What would be the first step you can take to move towards the outcome you desire. (One step large or small, is great!)

Control the Controllables

Too often we waste time and energy trying to control situations that are beyond our control.

Your control:

  • Your own opinions, behaviours, emotions, and beliefs.
  • Your mindset.
  • Who you choose to be friends with.
  • How you care for yourself.

Not your control:

  • Other people’s opinions, their behaviour, their emotions, and beliefs.
  • Who your family are.
  • The weather, the traffic jam, the outcome of the job interview you have just attended, the prices of the food shopping the list goes on and on.

Numerous situations are beyond our control and trying to control every eventuality and outcome can be extremely overwhelming and draining of your energy.

Let us picture the scene.

You have a wonderful day planned to go fishing (your control). The weather is great, a few white fluffy clouds in the sky and you can feel a little bit of warmth in the sun that is shining down (not your control).

You have loaded the car with your fishing equipment and are ready to go (your control) the journey is longer than you anticipated after being stuck in traffic jam for 30 minutes, (not in your control) this bring on the feeling of frustration (your control). You pick your spot at one of the many ponds and take in the scenery, the trees are in full bloom, the sunlight reflecting on the water. You set up your equipment and cast off into the pond feeling yourself relaxing after the car journey (your control).

Why not take some time to determine the situations that are within your control.